Imma Put It On Her...

I'm an avid fan of Making the Band 4. It's one of my guilty pleasures. I am not ashamed, for I am a walking contradiction. You cannot place me in a box. Now let me get off of my soap box. Anyway Day26's first single, 'Imma Put It On Her' makes me think about what I want in a significant other, my woman. I want to put something on her not just sexually. I realized that I have so much to offer. I would lower my expectations just to have someone. Detrimental to my sanity I would take care of their needs while forgetting my own. These actions would lead to anger and frustrations and subsequently infidelity. This was my pattern over and over again. Emotionally and spiritually I was dead. I knew I deserved better but maybe I was swayed by their sexiness or the batting of their eyes. I cannot do it anymore. Not anymore. My needs have to be met first. I need a woman that will interdependently want and need me.

My track record in relationships is tremendously bad. I always fall for that woman that is clingy and want me around all of the time. She is calling every day. I got used to that kind of woman. It has become repeat performances in my relationships. It's one after another. Only I can make different choices. I start to focus more on the women in my life than myself. That cannot happen anymore because greatness has to happen. I'm dreaming big, and I want my significant other to dream big (her own) with me. I always get the woman that wants my dreams to be realized to have it easy. It has nothing to do with financial status. It's about the happiness that we can share when our dreams come true. I will put it on her. I will give her the love that she needs and wants. I will give her emotional and spiritual support. I will love unconditionally. I will give her everything that her heart desires (understand that material things are not in this equation). All I ask for in return is the same. It's nothing hard. It's reciprocal love. Then and only then I will try to grow with someone. You know Imma put it on her.